“About 8 years ago, I took a cold, hard look at my marriage and made a choice. I was codependent, and my husband didn’t treat me very well. I had a nice house and a nice car and didn’t have to work, but I was dying on the inside – knowing that my son was going to grow up to choose meek, codependent women who he wouldn’t treat very well, because that’s what we were modeling to him.
So, I left. I left the money, the house, the car, the marriage, and the cushy lifestyle. I left in search of happiness – and it’s been quite the journey. It was a lot harder than I thought to get on my feet. And running my own business hasn’t always been easy. In my work coaching moms to notice what they’re modeling so they can be the person they want to be for their kids, I had to dig up a lot of things from my own past. But thankfully, it led to my ex and I developing a fantastic co-parenting relationship. He’s in a much healthier and happier marriage, and they model a lot of love and laughter in their home. I’m a lot healthier and happier, too. I do my utmost to model excellent communication skills and can safely say I’ve torn up my codependency card.
At the end of the day, you can take all the parenting classes in the world, but working on your own stuff should always come first.”
Kate Anthony, Coach and Educator for Moms