A few weeks ago, as I was wrapping my first one-on-one strategy call with Kathy, a member of my new mastermind group for rising business leaders, she said:
“Thank you so much. I’ve already got my money’s worth for the entire six months.”
Wow. How’s that for a testimonial?!
Less than 24 hours prior, I’d been talking about the launch of the group with my boyfriend, Jeff. I call him my “unofficial CFO” because he always gives great business advice.
I had just commented that, now I’d filled the mastermind, the really hard work was about to begin.
“Oh, this is the easy part.” He told me, undeterred. “You’ve got this. You were BORN to do this.”
Let’s just say: I needed to hear that.
The next day, on my Zoom video call with Kathy, I reminded myself, “You were BORN to do this,” and it helped me shift into a different energetic space—one of quiet power and calm self-assurance.
I knew I could offer Kathy a different perspective. By holding space for her in just the way she needed, I was able to ask certain questions that led her closer to her truth, and—at the same time—help her map out the next steps for her business.
At the end of our call, she said, “Well, I just got my money’s worth for the entire 6 month mastermind, so thank you for that!”
It helped that she’d just finished writing a book on how to hire your first team member (no big deal!), so she was already owning her power as an expert—she just hadn’t fully embraced it yet.
Last week, the same thing happened again. Masterminder Brittany left a voice note for me that said:
“Hi Nikki, it’s Brittany, I just left the panel that I was on and I cannot thank you enough for taking the time today to make sure I had that messaging lined up. I used it word for word in my introduction and felt so good about it. And it worked because, right afterwards, maybe 6 or 7 people came up to me and wanted to know how we could work together. It was everything I wanted and I just got my entire value for the mastermind with you helping me over the last two days, so thank you again and looking forward to chatting more on Monday’s call.”
I used to think it was a bad thing to allow external validation to boost your self-esteem. I always think about Andy Warhol’s words:
“Don’t think about making art, just get it done. Let everyone else decide if it’s good or bad, whether they love it or hate it. While they are deciding, make even more art.”
But I’m realizing that, sometimes external validation is exactly what we need. When someone else reflects back to us what makes us great, it reminds us that we’re on the right track. It shows us the way forward. And it proves to us that everything’s unfolding in the most perfect way.
The best thing we can do when we get that type of feedback?
Believe it, embrace it, and lead from that place.
And, while you’re waiting for a compliment to land in your lap?
“I was BORN to do this.”
You might just give your clients a whole heap of extra value—just by showing up exactly as you are.
Oh, the possibilities.
P.S. I’m thinking about opening the door for 8 more rising leaders to join another 6-month mastermind group in June. If you’re interested, head this way and tell me more about your business.
P.P.S. If you’re going through a transitional time right now, and feeling a lot of fear creep in, here’s a meditation by Sarah Blondin that’ll remind you… You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.